The narcissistic family tree. In healthy families, we encourage our children to be loving & close to each other. In narcissistic families, children are pitted against each other & taught competition. There is a constant comparison of who is doing better & who is not. Some children are favored or seen as the golden child & others become the scape-goat for the parents projected negative feelings. Siblings in narcissistic families rarely grow up feeling emotionally connected to each other.
Getting the last word w a narc. Rejection. We want closure which is never going to come in a way that we want but we can find closure by No Contact. We want to be heard, want them to know the pain they've caused but they are never going to listen and if they do, they don't hear the words. What we often miss is the beauty of No Contact. You are finally saying No More. It is your voice without the words but they hear it loud and clear.
Photo: Narcissism by Richard Boyd, Energetics Institute at http://www.energeticsinstitute.com.au/page/narcissism.html Covert Narcissists particularly employ silence as a tool of control and mental torture of others. Silence normally causes the other party to “fill in the blanks or silence” with their own story of what is going on, and can lead to great anxiety and fear in that person. #relationships #covert #silenttreatment
A toxic person knows of they hurl accusations at a survivor, those words will pierce deep. They cause the survivor to look inward and to reflect on whether the complaints against them are true. Quite the clever diversion tactic.
Some adult children of narcissists may act and/or sound like their parent. This causes the fear that they may be narcissistic & will damage their own children. If you are worried about your children, you are not narcissistic. Narcissists only care about themselves! Relax! You realize what you are doing & can change, a narcissist cannot.
Covert Narcissists particularly employ silence as a tool of control and mental torture of others. Silence normally causes the other party to “fill in the blanks or silence” with their own story of what is going on, and can lead to great anxiety and fear in that person.