Be careful and choose wisely what you allow to occupy the stage of your dominate thoughts, for truly the quality of your thinking determines the happiness of your life. “Man is made or unmade by himself. In the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace.” –James Allen (from his inspiring book ‘As A Man Thinketh’)
Do you ever feel interested in something? That's joy. Do you ever wonder about something and feel an appetite growing within you? Do you ever have a really clear moment about something when you're doing something or when you're fixing something? That clarity is joy. Don't let big, smiling faces and people jumping up and down be your definition of joy.
No such thing as a soul mate. Are you really trying to tell me out of billions of people there is "the one" we have to find for happiness love and joy. Dont make me call you stupid, because I will. Its just an excuse we use to divorce etc that appeases the conscience. Justification at its finest.