It isn't about finding the perfect person, it isn't about living some fairy tale; it's about finding something you're willing to work for, with somebody who's willing to work with you. That simple. Find someone who has a heart for you & never stop fighting for them.
Do not let your relationship turn into one person only being dominant/submissive-share each role, it will turn into an unhealthy relationship otherwise. Use "I see it differently" in difficult relationships.