We repeat family dysfunction. I came from many generations of alcoholism. When I was a little kid I wanted to be different than my dysfunctional family, but I ended up just like them. Once I did become clean and sober I ended up being the black sheep of the family. Some family traditions are meant to be broken.
DON'T LET YOUR EMOTIONS AND ANGER GET THE BEST OF YOU. - When anger is NOT controlled, it can destroy so many relationships, whether it is a relationship between a man and a woman, family members, friends or co-workers. Anger can make a person do things that they normally wouldn't do like trying to run another car off the road just because that car cut in front of you on the highway. It's called road (RAGE) for a reason. Anger also makes you say things that will hurt another person's…
It is well established that the "martyred mother" in a dysfunctional family is the one controlling and manipulating the entire family. When you hear something like, "I tried to be a good mother, but..." you know the martyr is on stage manipulating.
Siblings Not Encouraged to Be Close: In healthy families, we encourage our children to be loving and close to each other. In narcissistic families, children are pitted against each other and taught competition. There is a constant comparison of who is doing better and who is not.
As an only child in a dysfunctional family of deniers and enablers, through time I suffered with acute loneliness through emotional isolation and feeling unwanted and misunderstood...it is a terrible poverty and a void I tried to fill with binge eating...then up-chucking it up.