Its okay to be vulnerable and it's okay to put yourself out there. People will hurt you, that's a fact, but we can not allow that fear to paralyze us. Walk through the fear regardless how you feel. Amazing things are waiting!!
Abandonment creates an emotional crisis of such intensity and duration that it mimics a full blown borderline episode. This has caused many a therapist to diagnose borderline personality disorder (BPD) in many a client in the throes of a painful separation. The emotional volcano of abandonment is often misunderstood by the clinician as evidence of serious psychiatric disorder.
Myth: Individuals with BPD are manipulative Fact: Although people may feel as if they are being manipulated by an individual with BPD, their behavior is not intentionally manipulative. Their actions are often an attempt to avoid confrontation, abandonment, and/or to seek validation.
Feeling rejected is not much different from actual pain. Studies of MRI scans have shown that the same areas of the brain that respond to physical pain also react to being hurt by rejection. As far as your brain is concerned, a broken heart is no different than a broken arm.
If you grew up with an emotionally immature, unavailable, or selfish parent, you may have lingering feelings of anger, loneliness, betrayal, or abandonment. You may recall your childhood as a time when your emotional needs were not met, when your feelings were dismissed, or when you took on adult levels of responsibility in an effort to compensate for your parent’s behavior. These wounds can be healed, and you can move forward in your life.