Forgiving my offender means giving up my right to demand retribution By forgiving the one who has hurt me, I am not saying that what he did was ok , nor am i saying that i am over the emotional pain. forgiveness simply means that I am willing to live with the consequences of his sin against me. I let him off my hook, but he is still answerable to God.
So often people say they love each other but as soon as one gets angry out comes the list of past sins! This is not love. True godly love forgives and refuses to keep track of personal slights received. Obviously we should not allow people to continue to hurt or abuse us or others. Thats not what 1 Corinthians 13:6 is teaching. The goal is to have a spirit of reconciliation to forgive those who seek forgiveness letting the past stay in the past.