be wise 3. Confiding in a “friend” of the opposite sex. Once you find yourself having a conversation or sending a text message that you hope your spouse doesn’t find out about, you’ve stepped way out of bounds. Most affairs start as “friendships” that cross the line. (one part of two)
Turns out, friends top the list. In the study, the researchers noted that “having close friendships may help to sustain the marital relationship by reducing the burden on the marriage to fulfill all of one’s emotional needs.” The good news is that you don’t have to see your friends every day to reap the beneficial boost in well-being: “It can face-to-face, but also phone calls and text messaging,” says Luthar.