Who We Are “Every definition is dangerous,” according to Erasmus. And yet we are all defined in one way or another. One way is by association. For example the inscription on one of two headstones in the garden of Wedgwood Manor: Here Lies The Body Of Lucy Caroline, Daughter Of Josiah Wedgwood And Wife of Commander M.J. Harrison, R.N., Died 25 June, 1912. Aged 72. The other is by rank: Here Lies The Body Of Mathew James Harrison, Commander R.N., Died June 26, 1926 Aged 79.