This can be for a man/husband married to a narcissistic woman. They DO exist and they are evil. Recovery from Emotionally Abusive Relationships Education about Narcissists, Sociopaths, and other Toxic People. Don't be a victim, don't just survive, Thrive LET THIS BOARD BE YOUR AHA MOMENT, PLEASE SHARE!!!
Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don't question themselves. They don't ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else. Be healthy, giving people the benefit of the doubt is no longer part of our ever growing, ever changing society. You can love someone with caution. Doesn't mean you love them less..
To forgive is Divine. To forgive the same thing over and over again is weakness. When Shawn (my former husband) cheated on me for the second time with a second woman, it would have been so much easier to forgive him, stay married and move on. It took much more courage, much more bravery to leave him, leave my "perfect" life, to move on, and to have more respect for myself. Have I forgiven him? Yes. Of course I have. Does that mean I had to stay married to him? No.
Unfortunately this is true. The person who knows you better than you know yourself, can (and often will) tell you the things that he knows will make you feel so incredibly worthless. That was my life with my (now ex-) husband.