One of the biggest signs and traits of narcissism is Hoovering. This technique usually appears after months, even years of no contact. Narcissists will try every trick in the book to get you back into the codependent cycle.
IT'S NOT YOU...IT WAS NEVER YOU...you did nothing wrong and a whole lot right. It's that narcissists go through a cycle in their relationships.... idealize (love bombing), devalue and abuse, then discard....again and again. You completed the cycle, so the N was done with you...but will likely try to come back (hoovering) time and time again, so they can repeat the cycle. Just remember, if the N is treating you good again, it's just the first part of the narcissistic cycle.
Narcissistic cycle of Abuse NPD. I tried warning others of this. Once a narcissist has discarded it's victim, another MUST replace the addiction. Just wondering which family member is next on the list and praying for them.
narcissistic abuse cycle--these people NEVER apologize because they sincerely believe that they are NEVER wrong :P .
Quote on abuse: Survivors of any and all abuse become very good at anticipating moods of others, looks, actions, all of it in an effort to survive. Believing that if we can be agreeable, be compliant and loving, do things how they want, that we will be safe. This becomes our way of live." - Darlene Ouimet. www.HealthyPlace.com
2 of these was more than enough.
Recovery from Emotionally Abusive Relationships Education about Narcissists, Sociopaths, and other Toxic People. Don't be a victim, don't just survive, Thrive LET THIS BOARD BE YOUR AHA MOMENT, PLEASE SHARE!!!
The Narcissist repeats the same patterns of behaviour over and over.