Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
Narcissists do not respect anyone's boundaries, especially their children's. Their belief is that the parent has the right and should control their child, even when they are adults. Children are expected to pay homage to them, and are forever indebted to them simply because they are the parent. Tina Fuller, author of It's My Turn, available in the bookstore.
I can NOT emphasize this enough when I counsel women with abusive Narcissist mothers. You have a duty and an obligation to PROTECT your children from the very things your mother did to you. She WILL do those same things to your children, it is only a matter of time and there are NO exceptions to this rule. ~ A.L.N.