This is a perfect and almost exact description of two sociopaths I was unfortunate enough to have known. One even went so far as to change his name. These are the types of individuals who become involved in gang-stalking and strategically destroying other human beings. Not surprisingly, these traits are common in both politicians and murderers. This is how they operate...
Everything the narcissistic mother does is deniable. There is always a facile excuse or an explanation. Cruelties are couched in loving terms. Aggressive or hostile acts are paraded as thoughtfulness. Selfish manipulations are presented as gifts. Criticism and slander is slyly disguised as concern.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder..... He appeared so normal to me but I have seen every side to him now and it is terrifying. These narcissists are usually able to hide their abnormal behavior around co workers and family etc, but because I was in constant contact with this guy 24/7, he couldn't hide his distorted mind from me.
4 Tips to Surviving a Relationship with a Person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder by CLEARVIEWTREATMENT in FAMILY & FRIENDS, RELATED CONDITIONS, TREATMENT & THERAPY - (It's a Borderline Personality Disorder, & The first in the Dark Triad. ~Wild)
This explains it well. All the symptoms and other info about someone who suffers from Narcissists Personality Disorder. They will lie to make themselves look good. they thrive on other peoples lives instead of focusing on their own. They are obsessed with drama.