I like being alone. I have control over my own shit. Therefore in order to win me over your presence has to feel better than my solitude. You're not competing with another person, you're competing with my comfort zones.
Unfortunately, people today think it is okay to slander, judge, and speak rudely to and about other people. If we just took a moment to think about the old adege "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all," then our world would be so much happier.