The very existence of a scapegoat role in a family signals there is someone who is chronically avoiding responsibility for their actions. Gail Meyers, The Scapegoats of a Narcissistic Mother at http://scapegoatsofanarcissisticmother.blogspot.com/2014/08/5a-scapegoating-narcissist.html
my life story. you have NO IDEA how this relates to me, even to this day. how sad is that. i no longer have an extended family of origin all because my mother is sick in the head. generation after generation. sticks and stones. pants on fire. walk away. end the pain. i will not repeat history with my children!
You always knew that one day you would stand up for yourself… That one day you would raise the standard of your life… That one day would say to yourself, "Enough with this bull$h!t"… You might as well make today that day. - Steve Maraboli
Patriarchal sex typing (where, usually, the wife or more giving partner revolves around the needs of the husband, or 'taker', who becomes increasingly narcissistic and, thus, empty) creates all sorts of dysfunction. You cannot have a healthy relationship at the sacrifice of another, period. Control, emotional undermining thru contempt, projection, dishonesty, scapegoating, labeling... Enuma Elish...