The ocean never handed to me the gift of swimming. I gave it to myself. I'm glad this quote exists. I never understood why you were supposed to thank the people who put you through shit because they "taught you something". No. You learned that on your own. Out of necessity.
This is what it feel like to be with a Narcissist. You constantly have to have your guard up to avoid all attacks. Your survival instincts kicks in, and you will do anything to protect yourself from Narcissistic Abuse.