Yesterday I was told "someone was making them look bad". Unfortunately they are the perpetual victim, always blaming someone or something for their lack of results. . We are the common denominator in our life. No person, or situation, or circumstance can change that without our permission. Want different results, have different actions.
drinking isn't a crime. Being drunk is not a crime. Passing out is not a crime. Wearing certain clothes is not a crime. Walking alone or at night is not a crime. Rape though, that's a crime even if over half our society doesn't bother to pay attention to it.