He always has used money to control, like his ex wife said "money rules him!". But it's not ruling him it's how he views it, how he uses it as yet another way to control be it via enticement of promised gifts & lifestyle, or to punish by withdrawing to put u at financial risk. He also spends lavishly on himself whilst u & the kids struggle.
Narcissistic mothers teach their daughters that love is not unconditional, that it is given only when they behave in accordance with maternal expectations and whims. As adults, these daughters have difficulty overcoming feelings of inadequacy, disappointment, emotional emptiness, and sadness.
Twisting the truth is a lie. Narcissists are MASTER Liars and will put their "spin" (lies) onto whatever story works in THEIR FAVOR...expecially when waging their toxic, sick, destructive SMEAR campaigns against their "target".
Someone who is capable of leaving you without a real “heart to heart” talk basically lacks empathy and is manipulative. Some people, most often those with Narcissistic Personality Disorder or Narcissistic traits, purposely leave relationships denying their partners the decency and respect of closure. Why? It boils down to one thing and one thing only- Control.
Before him I never knew what it was really, never thought Id have to. Biggest mistake of my life, my self, my heart, my soul, my life, even my child..he took them all & plotted for 4 yrs to do it..even enlisted help who went along & are equally disturbed. Don't take it lightly, dont think he'll change. Only to discredit you but even that wont last.You cannot fix him. U may as well sell ur soul to the devil..for a penny, you may end up with that when all else is gone. Monsters..no question.
Narcissist - well, to bad this is what is happening to my mother. Me and the other scapegoat sibling no longer will take the crap, and are no longer remaining silent about the abuse, like how we were raised and conditioned to do so!