Some things in life are difficult to avoid, such as illness, loss of job or other life challenges. But we can adapt to our circumstances and adjust our sails to take us on a journey least expected. The voyage may not be what you wanted, navigating the unexpected. There will be grief, loss of dreams, there will be fighting against this ‘force of nature’. You may feel swamped with a tornado of emotions. You may cry out, “why me?” Modifying the sails will assist for a smoother adjustment.
Daughters Seeking Approval from Mother.
Daughters Seeking Approval from their Mothers. Pursuing/distancing relationship is not uncommon for daughters of mothers down the generational line who have unfulfilled dreams and been invisible and unheard in their own families. The wounded mother, the wounded child.
Loss of Identity When Women Become Mums
Women who have lost their identity once they become mums. Look at generational factors, and the Lost Woman who has no idea of her value and identity outside of her caring role for children, partners, parents - constantly gives out to others yet may only receive crumbs of love and attention in return. If you are the Lost Woman, there's tips on how you can find your way back.
Janice Williams Mother Daughter Counselling & Coaching - There is an unspoken expectation that women are to be care-givers, not only to partners and children, but also to parents. When a mother feels that she has sacrificed and neglected herself for others, there is the expectation that her adult daughter will also care for her. This sacrifice and neglect is inherited from past generations and often advances down the female line into future relationships between mothers and daughters. Adult daughters who are care-givers feel that their thoughts, feelings and needs are unvoiced, unheard and unmet while they neglect themselves to be ‘in service’ to their mother. Daughters feel invisible. When a mother has experienced emotional neglect or lack of nurturing when growing up, or was not heard in her family, or has unrealised dreams and goals due to family opposition, she can become a critical woman who has buried her feelings. Quite likely she will rely on her daughter to be her confidante and care-giver. Care-givers must look at how you can be care-receivers. If not from your mother, who will nurture you, the carer – husband, partner, friend? Take time away from your giving role to catch up with friends, do yoga, go for a walk. It’s important to fill your own tank before you can fill others. It’s helpful to look back over your mother’s life to get a sense of her upbringing in her family and events in her life that impacted her. To feel compassion for her lost child. It’s not to excuse her behaviour. It’s to get a sense of her experience. It means being conscious of choosing a different route to that of your mother, to tread your own path. Janice x #selfcare #motherdaughtercoaching #counsellornorthryde #emotionalhealing | Facebook
Am I neglecting myself and doing too much for other people? How will I feel tonight if I continue to neglect myself today?
How to survive Mother's Day with a difficult Mother
How to Survive Mother’s Day with a Difficult Mother. Many women wonder if they are the only one with a difficult relationship with their mother and are ashamed of these feelings. Women who feel hurt or anger with their mother are reluctant to discuss these struggles, as society considers it is not the right thing to say. It’s like a secret which no one talks about, yet many experience.
Patriarchy and Stereotypes on M-D Relationships
This International Women’s Day, many events will be exploring the theme of Breaking The Bias – looking at how to achieve a world free of bias, stereotypes, and discrimination, a world where difference is valued and celebrated. Read my latest blog on how patriarchy and stereotypes has affected the mother-daughter relationship. There’s also 8 Tips on how to break the bias and stereotypes. Image credit: Joel Muniz, Unsplash
How The Lost Daughter Examines Mother-Guilt and Shame of Motherhood - Janice Williams Counselling Services
The Lost Daughter film has created lots of discussion – the meaning of motherhood, leaving children in the care of others, juggling career and motherhood, placing a mother’s own longing above the needs of her children. See blog for more.
Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach
“Mothers of daughters are daughters of mothers & have remained so, in circles joined to circles, since time began” Signe Hammer, Poet Generations of women connected together, relationships with each other, linking mothers & daughters down the Motherline. The relationship with our mother is recreated in our relationship with our daughter. Knowing your mother’s & grandmother’s story, is walking inside your own story.
Coaching with Janice - Mother-Daughter Relationships
As a Mother-Daughter Relationship Coach, I've often been asked what I do in this specific field. My latest blog explains how I work with women to explore patterns of interactions going back 3 generations which significantly impacts the mothers and daughters down the female line to the present. Using tools and strategies, I help mothers and daughters create a roadmap for change.
How to survive Mother's Day with a difficult Mother
How to Survive Mother’s Day with a Difficult Mother. Many women wonder if they are the only one with a difficult relationship with their mother and are ashamed of these feelings. Women who feel hurt or anger with their mother are reluctant to discuss these struggles, as society considers it is not the right thing to say. It’s like a secret which no one talks about, yet many experience.
Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship
Conflict between mothers and their adult daughters are rarely discussed openly as it is not deemed acceptable for daughters to feel anger towards their mother. Society informs women that they are nurturing, kind and more social than men. Women are considered as mediators, particularly within the family; it is still generally thought that women are to keep others happy. Many women try to live up to this expectation yet feel alone in this experience.
