"'No does not mean 'convince me'" - Seattle Slutwalk 2012 [click on this image for a brief analysis and remix about rape culture and the recent proliferation of rape jokes on prime time television] Source: Thinkprogress
"Young men need to be socialized in such a way that rape is as unthinkable to them as cannibalism." ~ Mary Pipher, Clinical Psychologist and author [click on this image to find a short video and analysis of the way rape is casually used as a metaphor]
True. And, in analysis of media accounts, etc...it's usually in the passive voice...s/he was raped rather than he raped her. The focus *should* be on the actor lest we forget that the best way to stop rape is to not do it.