It's hard at times to be the mature one when they're calling you things out of anger and it's hard not say something back. But I've done this many many times trying to understand why they're upset..but the thing was, they didn't understand me and went ahead and made assumptions instead :/
It is a blessing to feel things so deeply because when you are in the Moment, there is nothing like it. You feel great! It is also a curse because when a breakup happens, it takes you so much longer and it is harder for you to recover.