It's funny people do this and think people don't notice. If you talk about someone and then in the same conversation say you hung out with that person, people notice and you only make yourself look crazy. Not those you bash. Please don't waste your time or mine bitching about someone & then turn around & associate with them. I don't feel sorry for you & you're clearly BOTH users!!
It's always been a bur in my ass when I hear 'good christian', 'church-going' people in society, who constantly 'praise God', 'thank Jesus', play gospel music, etc.. but, between bible quotes, will start gossip sessions, throw cussing fits, make regular casino visits, make disparaging comments about someone's attire or physical appearances, or worse make fun of them. These same individuals are sitting in the judgement seat. One day, they'll be removed by the hand of the only TRUE judge.
One of the things that can destroy any church or ministry is gossip. Other terms in the Bible for gossip include: backbiter, busybody, slanderer, secrets, talebearer and whisperers. So then, a Biblical definition of gossip would be to spread rumors or secrets, speak about someone maliciously behind their back or repeat something about someone else that you have no right to repeat. My husband often says “If you aren’t part of the problem or the solution, its gossip”.