I'm doing a lot of chin-ups to get that nice v-shape. It's real heavy doing chin-ups but I can do 4 of them now :) I train mostly with a red rubber band that takes of some of the weight so I can do more reps. It's really important to warm up the shoulders before doing chin-ups to prevent injury.
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Training triceps is really good for women to get rid of slappy arms :) I'm doing a lot of dips because it's nice to be able to lift my own weight (as with chin-ups). http://thevenusfactorrrs.blogspot.com/